Help! I Have 18 Month Old Twins and I’m Pregnant Again

Last updated on March 6th, 2024 at 08:20 pm

A MoM asks:

I am a mother of 18 month old girl twins and I am pregnant again. I think it’s too soon to be pregnant again. I don’t think I could handle it, having 3 little kids! Any other moms have twins and then have another child right away? How did you handle it? I also have no help except my husband after he gets off work. I’m stressing out! Help!

Here’s What Our Twiniversity Community Had to Say!

They’ll be several months older by the time the baby comes. It doesn’t seem possible now, but there is a BIG difference between 18 months old and 2 years old. Also, it’s unreal how much easier the second time as a new parent is than the first time. It’s also amazing how much easier it will be to have just one baby rather than two this time. You’re going to be amazing at this!! You’re a pro at babies already, even though you might not feel like it. Congrats!!

Here are some realistic things I do: Baby wearing leaves two hands free. Shop at stores that have the three passenger carts, like Target and Walmart. Child harnesses are my #1 must for my kids. I was so against it — then realized I need them! Single stroller with two on harnesses or double stroller with one on a harness. Take plenty of snacks and toys EVERYWHERE.

I have been there, my oldest was 16 months old when twins came along. I was a basket case for a good three years. My only advise is that you take it one day at a time, not to sweat the small stuff and to take lots of videos and pics because it is all going to happen so fast!

My twins and my youngest are 14 months apart. Honestly, you just do it. Plan ahead, ask for help when you need it, and build your confidence that you were meant to do it.

My twin girls are 20 months old, and my son is 8 months old. I found out I was expecting when my twins were only three months old. It was definitely a surprise… But you learn to, ‘just do it.’ The closeness in age actually is nice — all three are now wearing the same size clothes, diapers, and all are content. My husband is gone all the time and I’ve done good doing it on my own with the three. Trips to the store are just done quickly – get in and get out. It won’t be that bad. Just keep your head up. You’re lucky your kids are 18 months, meaning they’re walking. I remember the day I had my son, my twins still were only walking with assistance! You can do it!

My twins were 22 months when my little guy was born. It was rough for the first year, but I wouldn’t change it. At almost 8 and 10, they are all friends. Just found out we are expecting #4…8 years later! Should be a different experience this time around!

My twins were 16 months old when their baby sister was born, and I also had a four year old. Life was a little chaotic with a LOT of little people needing my (and my husbands) attention. I advise you to take it one day at a time, create and stick to a schedule, and breathe! Show yourself a lot of grace and love your husband!

I got pregnant when my 2nd was 9 months and the 1st was 3. Honestly you learn and make mistakes but they make it worth it. You can do it!

You can do it! It’s hard at times, but so worth it. It’s a ton of work and a ton of fun. My twin boys are 21 months older than their little brother. They are now 4 and 2. My YMCA membership (with childwatch), MOPS group, church, and twins groups have been so important. I also bought indoor car seats for the twins so I could know they were safe while I nursed the baby to sleep. Unconventional solutions are out there. Just think outside the box and get advice from people who have done it before. It’s manageable, but don’t forget to ask for help when you need it. Get your support system in place now

I have boy twins that turned 1 this week and a 3 week old little girl. You will be fine! One baby is much easier! Biggest thing is keeping the twins on their normal schedule. I have been out of the house with help and do plan on continuing to get out on my own! The key is a good stroller and patience! I think if you go into each day with patience and no expectations …. You will be fine!

I had my singleton when my boy twins were 17 months old. Yes, it is hard! Especially during the newborn stage. But you CAN do it and it gets easier, I promise. There are some really challenging days, but we always make it through and the fun and rewarding times outweigh the tough ones. Good luck!

I had twin girls and then 19 months and ten days later we had our son. It seems very overwhelming, even though they are 4 and 2 1/2 now. You’d be surprised how easy the ‘habit’ of having a newborn is! Without sounding rigid, find a schedule that works for you, especially if it means getting some bonding time with the new baby. And give yourself some credit! It sounds like a lot and you’ll have ups and downs but it’ll get to a point where its only overwhelming when you stop and think about it. Now that they’re older I love how close they are and having two older sisters has caused my son to blossom. He strives to keep up! Good luck!

My twin girls were 18 months old when I gave birth to my son. My husband is a pilot and is gone A LOT; and our family lives two hours away from us. I was terrified in the beginning! But, I survived and my kids survived, and you will too! I learned very quickly to accept the help everyone around me was offering, and to ask for help. I am very involved in church and I had many friends who extended helping hands in various ways – delivering meals to my home, helping with housework, sitting with my children while I napped, etc. My advice would be to remember that it won’t always be pretty, but you (and your children) will survive, accept help others are offering and ask for help when you need it. You’ll do great!

I had a 2 month old son when I got pregnant with twin boys. They were born 4 weeks early so they are only 10 months apart. I was so scared and nervous and not ready for 2 more kids. I’m not gonna lie, its not easy. I’m a stay at home mom and do it all by myself. My hubby helps when he can. But it’s so worth it. My twins are a year old and my oldest is almost 2 and they are a handful, but so worth every smile, laugh, hug, and kiss. Find a routine and stick with it. Having a routine saved me. Good luck and take it one day at time.

I had a second set of twins when my first set turned two. I was beyond scared when we found out we were pregnant, let alone another set of twins. I will not lie the first three months were so hard when the babies came. Two year old twins running around and demanding new babies. It was a total blur and nightmare! I joined a mothers group and for the first couple of months women I barely knew came over, with food, held babies, let me shower or sleep. It saved my sanity and my life. Now we have two year old and four year olds and we survived. My husband worked until 6 at night and weekend so I had the same situation. You will survive. It won’t be awesome the first couple of months, but I could not for one second imagine life without all of them. Look into mothers groups for twins. They are a great support system! Good luck!

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